Everyone wants “success” but everyone’s definition of “success” is different, which is why I have put it in “”. In my eyes, “success” is having a great relationship with your family and friends, and having the financial freedom to do whatever you want while keeping your morals. There’s no such thing as getting rich quick, so for those of you reading this in hopes of finding that answer, I’ll save you some time and say farewell. But, for those of you who are sick and tired of scraping by and are willing to work to “make it” this post should bring you some value. That’s not to say that it’s going to necessarily be what you want to hear, but it’s real, and it’s tested by yours truly.
After analyzing what has worked for me to get to where I’m at right this moment I have been able to break the process into 5 different segments. Some are easier than others, but all are difficult. Some you may already possess, but all are needed. However, the best news of all is that ALL ARE ACHIEVABLE.
Number one on the list, and in my opinion the most difficult is segregation. How many of you want to move away from your friends and family so you have more time for self-reflection and uninterrupted learning? Anyone? Yea it’s not the greatest thing in the world, but it’s a reality. I love my friends and family to death and would do anything for all of them. Having said that, I also do a lot of silly (take it as you wish) things when I’m with them. If you don’t believe me, check out my Instagram from my college days at zmcarthur12. We always had fun, but that fun was at the expense of my self-development. After moving across the country I found that the amount of downtime I had was incredible. I started utilizing it to begin learning as much as I possibly could, reflecting on what I had done in my life and the results I got out of it and analyzing where I wanted to go while reverse engineering it to see what I would have to do to get there. Yes, I’m missing out on a ton of fun times with my friends and family in Wisconsin, and yes that bums me out sometimes, but it is allowing me to lay the foundation for my future.
What are you better at than 75% of the people you know? Notice I didn’t say, “everyone you know,” just 75% of people. You see that’s a common misconception that a lot of us have. We feel like we have to be the best right away and that’s just not possible. Believe it or not, more people are able to become super “successful” than just you. That’s why I’m so willing to share my information with all of you because I truly want to see each and every one of you “succeed”. For me, it’s helping others find that extra little bit of gas in the tank and teaching them to ignite a fire with it. I feel that growing up with a father who was and, in my opinion, still is an expert at this has taught me how to do this for every kind of person. Find your niche and be in the top 25%.
Never be satisfied with where you currently are. The story I’m about to tell you doesn’t have anything to do with me finding success professionally, but it does a great job at showing what continuous improvement will do, and it’ll give you a good laugh which never hurts :). When I was a freshman in high school I had no hair on my legs, I was 5′ 8″, and had maybe three armpit hairs that I would show off to my sisters. I was obsessed with football, but with being a late bloomer I was behind the curve in most physical aspects. My first ever high school 40 yard dash time was 6.3 seconds. We had guys on the team that could probably run it faster backward… So after that, I set my sights on 4.9. By the time I was a senior in high school I wanted to run in the 4.9’s. Cutting off that much time is insane, but I knew I had a lot of room for improvement so I started training. Every morning at 5:30 am my dad would walk into my bedroom, turn on my light, and say time to get up. Admittedly there were days I wanted nothing to do with seeing that hour of the day, but 99% of the time I got up and went in anyways. If there were coaches at the gym willing to help me then my resources were already there, it was just a matter of showing up and working. By the time my senior season rolled around, I had grown to be 6′ 1″, lost most of my baby fat and ran a 5.06. I was bummed that I didn’t reach my goal, but I was appreciative to see the results from my hard work. When I went to college the following year I was doing workouts with the football team in the offseason. I continued working on my speed and eventually was able to run a 4.91. If you’re continuously improving, even though it may not happen as fast as you want it to, it will eventually happen.
A Relentless Work Ethic
This thing we call “success” never comes easy. There’s always a behind-the-scenes show happening while the main show is being acted out on stage. This is a time that you have to be very honest with yourself. Do you really want it, or do you just kinda want it? Would you rather be relaxing all day Saturday, or are you willing to work all day Saturday? I don’t ask these questions to make you think you’re worthless for not wanting to work on the weekends. Not many people do! I also don’t ask these questions to brag about my work ethic. Do I have a strong work ethic? Yes. Is it the best work ethic that I know of? Absolutely not. But what makes me different is that I’m willing to do it in hopes that it will lead to new opportunities. What makes it worthwhile for me is the 5th and final segment. I LOVE IT.
Doing It For The Right Reasons
If you’re just doing something for the money you may become “successful” for a year, 3 years, 5 years, but eventually, it will start to dwindle away until it’s gone. Why? Because to sustain “success” you have to be continuously improving and to keep continuously improving, you have to want to. If what you are going after doesn’t bring you joy and happiness you may be good at it for a while because of your work ethic, but eventually, your productivity is going to fall off because you don’t really care about it anymore. Money is relative. If you have a little, you learn how to live with a little. If you have a lot, you learn how to live with a lot. But if you learn to do what you love, and are continuously getting better at it because you care to learn more, that’s when you’ll find wealth.
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